Composure Is A Skill We Need More Than Ever

In a world where our differences are constantly emphasized, it's all too easy to fall into the trap of making quick judgments, assuming mal-intent, and losing our cool. However, great leaders rise above these tendencies. They don't get agitated when challenged; instead, they view challenges as opportunities for growth, remain cool under pressure, and are revered for their ability to hold their emotions together during tough times. Composure is a skill that we desperately need in today's society. Cultivating composure can lead to better relationships, decision-making, and overall leadership. In this blog post, I explore the importance of composure and provide practical strategies to cultivate this essential trait.

Composure is closely tied to our emotional and mental responses. You are in charge of you, will you choose to act or will you react? Cultivating self-awareness and practicing self-examination are essential for patience and restraint. When you find yourself becoming frustrated or agitated, it's important to uncover the underlying triggers behind these emotions so that you can choose to act.

Here are some practical ideas to help you choose composure:

· Try Deep Breathing: Our breath is a powerful tool for relaxation. When you feel yourself becoming frustrated or overwhelmed, take a moment to engage in deep belly breathing. This technique relaxes your nervous and cardiovascular systems, allowing you to regain control over your emotions. This simple practice can help restore a sense of calm and clarity, enabling you to navigate challenging situations more effectively. · Put Others First: When confronted with stress-inducing situations or ideas, it's important to step back and consider the true intentions of the speaker or material. Sometimes, our rigid perspectives and preconceived notions can make us defensive or sensitive to alternative ideas which may stifle trust. By remaining hopeful and withholding judgment on others’ perspectives, you create space for growth and better outcomes. · Be Slow to Speak: If you find that resistance or surprises trigger a quick emotional response, consider adding more time to your agendas for gathering all the facts, building understanding and creating alignment. Let go of controlling or perfectionist tendencies and, instead, focus on strengthening relationships and finding collaborative solutions. · Say Thank You: A simple “thank you” can sometimes be sufficient for closing a conversation. You may also add a brief acknowledgement that the information is difficult to receive and request time to process it before responding. · Be Quick to Listen: Listening is a powerful tool in maintaining composure. By actively listening and asking for more information, you create a sense of safety in conversations. Your questions and silence invite participants to expand on their initial comments and allows you the time and space to make informed decisions.

Composure is a skill that invites followership through trust, belonging, and collaboration. When leaders remain composed, they inspire confidence and create a safe space for others to express their opinions. By keeping your cool during challenging times, you encourage your team members to do the same. Composure is contagious, lead yourself well.

Conclusion

In a world marked by division and quick judgments, composure is a skill we need more than ever. By developing self-awareness and practicing self-examination, we can strengthen our ability to remain composed in the face of challenges. Deep belly breathing, considering different perspectives, allowing time for understanding, saying thank you, and actively listening are practical strategies that can help us navigate difficult situations with grace and poise. So, let us embrace composure in our lives, inspire others to do the same, and foster a more harmonious world.

Choose how you will act instead of reacting. Composure is contagious, lead yourself well.

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